Fitting In considers all the factors that involve growing up as LGBTQIA in the world today. It’s a harsh look back at my life’s fights and figuring out where I belong and who I really want to be. Simultaneously, it’s a story rich with hope. No matter how hard it gets, I found my voice as well as my existence in this world. I want them to know that there is a way forward.
Encountering rejection was, and continues to be, one of the toughest life hurdles for me to deal with. Since childhood, I have always been concerned about acceptance, and not just from society, but even my friends and family. These are feelings many youths from the LGBTQIA community are fortunate enough to bear witness to. However, one thing I’ve been trying to teach myself is this: Although rejection will be a given, I should not allow it to define who I am and what I stand for. It may be heart wrenching, but it is nowhere near the final destination, and it has the potential to inspire self-exploration.
I have come to understand that getting over rejection is not a straightforward task. To accept rejection in a healthy manner requires a fair deal of time, self-love, and a whole lot of patience. For myself, building connections with others who had gone through similar life experiences made things a whole lot easier and refreshing. This is why supporting communities matter a lot; they have the ability to remind you that you are not alone in this world.
Now, while support from other people is essential, one must learn to support themselves as well. Being in a healthy relationship with yourself that includes self-love builds mas much needed positivity. Additionally, raising kids enables you to carry forth onward despite the challenges mark major hurdles throughout life. Struggling while learning is natural, so long as persistence is the goal.
In my book, I don’t only discuss the challenges of growing up gay. There is an element of greatness that weaves through the struggles when you embrace your identity and decide to carve a path of your own. The path may be rough, but the outcome is rewarding.
Therefore, for those who think they have no community or face problems with self-identity, here is the answer: Don’t lose hope. Every challenge you endure today is the same challenge you will overcome tomorrow. Just keep moving forward, and remember, you are not alone.